Wow it’s been so long since I posted I had to reset my password. The last year and half have been challenging for us as I’m sure it’s been for many. Wayne has become proficient at putting on a mask with one hand (remember his left elbow doesn’t bend) even if it is below his nose most of the time. All of the community activities that we worked so hard at scheduling for Wayne came to an abrupt halt and as a result he has spent most of the COVID year(s) in his home, often in his room, with periodic walks in his neighborhood. At least we can go in his home now, for so long we had to meet him outside. Of course one of our worries was will Wayne decline if he has less stimulation and continues to do word searches for hours each day? This situation has been a good reminder that our wishes are not necessarily Wayne’s wishes. I need to remember that Wayne is content and often happy with his life and daily routine even though it seems boring and is sad and frustrating for us. It’s not for him. Thank goodness. And, despite limited stimulation he has continued to improve cognitively. He has increased awareness of his surroundings, his feelings, and his preferences. The challenge with this is that it can be difficult for him to respond appropriately. For example Wayne will often yell, usually after someone offers to help; ‘do you need help with that?’ ‘NO I DON’T, LEAVE ME ALONE’. He sometimes doesn’t even realize that he’s yelling; ‘Wayne you don’t have to yell’, ‘I didn’t yell’. If others are bothering him he may flip them off or yell at them instead of expressing his wishes or removing himself from the setting. We find ourselves saying ‘what kind of mood is he in today?’. Another challenge has been his increased ability to express his preferences with hygiene and diet. What’s wrong with 10 cups of caffeinated coffee, wearing pajamas all day or using an excessive amount of salt? We pick our battles.
Some good news is that Wayne continues to have regular communication with Kaiden several times a week. They use an app called Marco Polo where they share videos with each other. Wayne knows what’s going on in Kaiden’s life and what he’s up too and vice versa.
Wayne will be having two surgeries soon. Oral surgery to remove his wisdom teeth and foot surgery for a toe infection. These are the inevitable result of severe trauma and his decreased ability to perform self care. Hopefully they will be successful and Wayne will keep on truckin’.